Post-Divorce Planning - Part 1

Whether you're preparing for separation, in the middle of the divorce process, or once again single, upbeat planning can lift your mood. Even in the best marriages, each spouse usually has one or more interests the other doesn't share, so they never quite get around to enjoying it during the married years. Don't feel guilty. Your soon-to-be-ex undoubtedly has a few, too.

* Begin making a list in your new journal. Think about topics, people, classes, events, or exploring life in general. On a fresh page, write "I've always wanted to try _________." Let the following list of "doing activities" help you get started:
(* We'll talk about journaling soon.)

1. SPORTS: 

• Solo,
• Team,
• Group,
• Indoor,
• Outdoor, 
• Local,
• A travel destination,
• For fun,
• For serious competition.

2. CREATIVE ACTIVITIES:

• Traditional handwork like knitting and crocheting,
• Weaving, large or small,
• Painting,
• Fiction writing,
• Poetry,
• Boat or gazebo building,
• Sewing or leather work,
• Nature crafts.

3. MUSIC

• Playing an instrument,
• Singing,
• Composing music,
• Exploring rhythm instruments,
• Joining or forming a group,
• Going solo, at least at first.

That short list should give you a few ideas. Each may involve attending classes, practicing, and exploring. None has to become a permanent part of your new life. 

But having that list written down is a healthy first step in creating a positive, newly single future for yourself!

Peace ~

Lin