Stressed but Lonely

This is written especially for the newly single who enjoy getting together with friends, but can't quite face large, noisy parties when we're feeling stressed and vaguely anxious. At such times, big gatherings drain our inner batteries more quickly and wear us out. On the other hand, you may feel isolated and lonely now and then since you're no longer part of a couple.

One solution is simply the Go or Don't Go method. For those of us who don't care for the shallow interactions of "cocktail party" events, just decline the invitation with a sincere Thanks. But don't make it a habit to stay home alone when the company of friends or family might be a happy, healing time out.

Then, too, the larger parties don't have to be an "all or nothing" for you. Enjoying a 5-hour party for 2 or 3 hours and then leaving is sometimes just right. And the important people in your life won't think twice about a slightly early departure. If you feel you have to make an excuse, say you're tired from a hectic week.

If you choose that route, arrive at the start of the party. Otherwise, you come into the middle of conversations and activities. Leave gracefully when you feel  happily satisfied. You will return home refreshed but not drained!

(Avoid questions or extensive talk about your separation or divorce. For one thing, it's too personal for a party. For another, you'll be far more refreshed if you forget all about that for awhile.)

Peace ~

Linda